Why I Hate New Year’s Resolutions

When was the last time you made a New Year’s resolution you actually kept?

Think about it. And be honest. What resolution have you made in, say, the last five years that you’ve actually seen all the way through?

If you’re anything like me, you’re stuttering, trying to come up with one. Because the resolutions we make for ourselves are all wrong. They are large and lofty – usually things like losing a ton of weight, working out an obscene amount each week, or learning a foreign language when we have zero time to study.

There’s little chance we can keep resolutions like these. We may have the best of intentions until life gets in the way – which it always does. And when we break that resolution less than a week into January, we start the new year with failure. This is why I hate making New Year’s resolutions. Being a failure is the pits. But I set myself up for it, year after year.

Not this year. This year I’m being real.  

That’s my first resolution. I’m choosing to achieve progress, rather than perfection – like cutting back on diet soda, adding five minutes to my work-out on weekends alone, and each week calling a friend with whom I haven’t talked in too long a time. I can do these things. They’re totally attainable, and they make me a better person.

There’s something else I’d like to do. Somehow, we Americans have become a population of ugly words and accusations. But this country was founded on the concept of e pluribus unum — out of many, one. We need to restore this concept to our credo. So, if you’re looking for a resolution that is do-able, consider this:


Please join me in resolving to speak more gently, to hear more keenly, and to reach out with greater compassion. We can do this.  Failure isn’t an option.

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  1. Rosemary Leonard on December 30, 2017 at 11:17 am

    Have been reading your books for a long time, actually you are my ultimate writer. Nothing better than a good read, sweet tea and comfy chair. Thank you for sharing with all of us.

  2. mary huskey on December 30, 2017 at 11:17 am

    I agree with you all the way.

    Resolutions should be a thing of the past. Started some years ago with the motto-Pay it forward. Think this has made me a better person. Not thinking of yourself but thanking the Almighty for all that I have been given.

  3. Sharon Deary on December 30, 2017 at 1:56 pm

    Resolutions are nothing but false promises to yourself. The best thing is to try to be a better person and remember the mistakes of last year. Try not to repeat behaviors you don’t like.

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