A glow-in-the-dark passie? You’ve got to be kidding.
Let me be clear. I hate the look of a pacifier in a child’s mouth – hated it when my kids were little, hate it now that their kids are little. I like seeing that little mouth and hate having it hidden. I also like the convenience of a thumb. Pop it in, take it out and smile without worry of dropping it on the supermarket floor.
That said, I saw the bright side of passie use during our last visit with our nine-month-old granddaughter. We were having a birthday dinner, nine of us eating after the baby was asleep, and, naturally, there were bursts of noise. During one, the baby woke up and began to cry.
Enter into the picture (literally) a video monitor. Now, monitors are another thing about which I have mixed feelings; if the baby needs me enough, I’ll hear her cry without a monitor, and if she’s silent, can I really assume she’s okay? The video monitor does solve the latter problem, since you can zoom in and see that little chest going healthily up and down.
The truth, though? For a grandparent, a video monitor is the best entertainment around. You’re literally a fly in the wall, watching the child as she wakes up, looks around, sits up, or cries.
We had a special show during that birthday dinner. There she was, standing in the dark at the end of the crib with her eyes on the door, crying for someone to come in. Her mom and dad knew from experience that she would eventually sit, then lie down and fall asleep again. They also had a secret weapon. There were four glow-in-the-dark passies, one in each corner of the crib. The baby knew that, and as we watched, went crawling for one. She put it in her mouth and sat silently for a time, then stretched out and went to sleep.
Self-soothing is a wonderous thing – and so important for a child to learn. Granted, this child is mobile enough in her crib so that she can search for hidden goodies. Still, it was the sweetest thing watching her put it in her mouth first upside down, then – bingo – perfect.
Loooove that passie!