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Is listening to audiobooks cheating?

I didn’t always listen to audiobooks.  I’m very much a visual person, who needs a map in my hand.  When it comes to books, I like to hold them.  I like being able to skip back and forth when I’m confused.  I even like being able to read the ending before I reach it, so that I can focus on the process rather than worry about how it ends.  Bottom [...]

By | 2018-01-25T14:32:02+00:00 2017|Blog|11 Comments

Confessions of a chronic dieter

I was a pudgy child, or so I saw myself.  Others may have called me solid.  One boy friend told me I wasn't fat, just well-packed – like this was what a teenage girl wanted to hear from a guy she wanted to date? I have been thinking of food all my life.  Seriously.  I don't need a shrink to tell me that food fills emotional holes.  The first one [...]

By | 2016-12-30T05:00:08+00:00 2016|Blog|9 Comments

Daring to dream

A dear friend recently celebrated a milestone birthday.  After the food was eaten, wine drunk, toasts offered and dessert served, my friend rapped her glass for attention. She had a toast of her own to make, and, in the process, offered a word of wisdom.  Follow your dream, she said, and told of something she had wanted to do all her life, that, after many close calls and much persistence, [...]

By | 2016-09-26T05:00:15+00:00 2016|Blog|7 Comments

Why I'm not retiring

A reader just wrote that she heard I was retiring.  Who said that? No.  I'm not retiring.  Let's be clear about it.  I.  Am.  Not.  Retiring. Not that I haven't considered it in moments of frustration.  Life for a writer has changed.  When I started – more than 30 years ago – all I had to do was write.  Ha ha.  That's funny.  I was a full-time mother of three [...]

By | 2016-05-04T16:00:03+00:00 2016|Blog|15 Comments

Walking on thin ice

I have three sons.  All are grown, married with kids, and gainfully employed.  They genuinely like me, and I genuinely like them.  In all of these things, I am very, very lucky. That said, navigating the waters with an adult child hasn't always been easy. First came college.   Actually, the trouble began not when my guys left home, but when they returned home for things like long weekends, holiday breaks, [...]

By | 2016-04-07T15:00:02+00:00 2016|Blog|10 Comments

Lean on me

Lean on me… when you're not strong … Remember that song? Bill Withers wrote it in 1972, which may have been the year you were born, or the year your children were born, or ten years before that, but the words are timeless. I've been thinking about them a lot. I don't have many close friends. All these years being a wife, mother, and writer, I never had time for [...]

By | 2016-02-16T05:00:45+00:00 2016|Blog|5 Comments

Do you multi-task?

More aptly, can you multi-task? Some people can't. Some do it now and then. Some are able but unwilling. Where do you fall on the spectrum? I'm of the able-but-unwilling school. I used to multi-task more than I do now, and age has something to do with that. But it's a positive thing. I'm wiser now. I choose now to multi-task less. That said, it's taken me a while to [...]

By | 2016-02-10T05:00:33+00:00 2016|Blog|3 Comments

Sleep habits of the grudgingly mature

Here's a pressing question: Does the need to pee wake us up, or do we wake up for another reason entirely and then decide to pee? And another one: Do we wake up early because our eyelids have thinned out so that even the first light of dawn penetrates, or do we wake up early because we went to bed early? I've always been a morning person. I'm out of [...]

By | 2015-12-02T17:00:41+00:00 2015|Blog|14 Comments

I won't grow up!

Peter Pan had it right. If growing up means no more fun and adventure, I don't want to grow up either. I like fun and adventure – like doing new things – like challenging myself. I like doing something I never imagined myself doing. Oh yeah, sometime it's daunting. I have a comfort zone, just like you all. But life is about growing. Have you done anything new in the [...]

By | 2015-06-12T05:00:21+00:00 2015|Blog|8 Comments

Where's your comfort zone?

I had a heart-to-heart once with the guy who does my hair. He'd been doing it for a long time, but we were increasingly at odds about style, cut, and color, with him urging me in one direction and my urging him in another. Finally, seeming exasperated, he said, "Barbara, you need to get out of your comfort zone." I went home and thought about that – and realized that [...]

By | 2015-03-18T08:40:42+00:00 2015|Blog|3 Comments